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New articles - wobao 22 Apr

Bascially - the title says do not let angry gets to your head

questions on upbringing

is there a standard CORRECT way of upbringing?

is instilling fear in children during upbringing detrimental?

Parenting to me is

be prepared to let your career takes a backseat

Parenting to me is....

....be present

my very first advise

plan for your children

but never let your children know...especially how much you have...lol

"force" yourself to improve a little day by day

how? you must be wondering...

think of it this way?

if we can improve ourselves by 1% every day, in 100 days, we will be able to achieve 100% improvement. 100 days is only slightly more than 3 months.

the 1% can be anything....start with simple easy task....

Why wait...start trying it out now....

Ethics of Communication

1) Moral Principles

-trust

-tone

-time

-tact

2) Creating opportunities to talk

-family time

-bed time

-travelling time

3) Listen for content and intent

never too late

never give up and abandon them
pursue them
never too late to start

Why children do not listen to their parents

they sense you are not real

they sense your sarcasm

they sense your lack of moral confidence

Phases

discipline (0 to 7) - give instructions

training (8 - 12) - imitations

coaching (13 - 19) - influence

relational (20 & beyond) - be a mentor

it's a constant struggle

why do i say so?
with a kid in tow...
almost all parents will give priority to them
they are young...they are dependent....they need help...assistant...care...etc
until so that we may lost themselves...
it is a balance between the freedom of doing what we used to do...or want to do
and giving all our awake time to them...sometimes even in between sleep...

to be continue....

Lovely Oct flowers

HDD gone!

my portable HDD which i have been storing all pixs was dropped onto a carpetted floor not long back and that's it....it is no longer working....i hunted high and low for someone to get it repaired...or at least to retrieve my data...but to no avail...was a very heart pain experience...a lesson learnt as well....for losing so many precious pixs collected over the past 5 yrs or so....especially for those that i have no backup.

so this site became so precious....bcos most pixs uploaded here are gone....enjoy!

Safety tips in the swimming pool

here are some impt ways to keep your child safe in the pool:

1) always accompany them when they are near or in the water.
2) keep an eye on them at all times.
3) use floats and stay near the shallow end
4) no running or pushing near the pool

children are slower to realise dangerous situations and therefore more prone to injuries.

every child is talented

do not assume that they are lousy when they don't meet the grades in school...there are many more types of
intelligent than you can imagine....
Below is an extract from Psychologist Howard Gardner:
1. Linguistic
Children with this kind of intelligence enjoy writing, reading, telling stories or doing crossword puzzles.
2. Logical-Mathematical
Children with lots of logical intelligence are interested in patterns, categories and relationships. They are drawn to arithmetic problems, strategy games and experiments.
3. Bodily-Kinesthetic
These kids process knowledge through bodily sensations. They are often athletic, dancers or good at crafts such as sewing or woodworking.
4. Spatial
These children think in images and pictures. They may be fascinated with mazes or jigsaw puzzles, or spend free time drawing, building with Leggos or daydreaming.
5. Musical
Musical children are always singing or drumming to themselves. They are usually quite aware of sounds others may miss. These kids are often discriminating listeners.
6. Interpersonal
Children who are leaders among their peers, who are good at communicating and who seem to understand others' feelings and motives possess interpersonal intelligence.
7. Intrapersonal
These children may be shy. They are very aware of their own feelings and are self-motivated.
source: http://professorlamp.com/ed/TAG/7_Intelligences.html

Learn to ask the right question

To punish (cane) or not?

this is really a tricky question....
it really depends on your own values
do u believe in caning?

It's very exciting

Happy 43rd Birthday

Singapore 43th Birthday Celebration!